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Money and Life Lessons I Learned from CBS Storybreak’s Yeh-Shen

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“Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime.” Chinese Proverb

“What you do not wish for yourself, do not do to others.” Confucius

Anyone out there that has been reading my blog, you can probably tell by now that I am a big fan of cartoons. I even named my blog after a scene in one. See my Meet Miriam page for more on how I came up with the name Greenbacks Magnet.

Anyhow, if you grew up in the 80s or 90s, then you may remember a Saturday morning anthology television show that aired on the CBS network called: CBS Storybreak.

Click here or on the logo to see the CBS Storybreak Intro.

It originally aired from 1985 to 1987 and was hosted by none other than Captain Kangaroo, Mr. Bob Keeshan.

Each episode was 30 minutes long and retold a beloved children’s story in animated adaptations.

It was later rebroadcast from 1993 to 1994 and was again returned to air in reruns in 1997 to 1998. This time it was hosted by actor Malcolm Jamal-Warner.

YEH-SHEN

My favorite episode of the series was entitled, “Yeh-Shen: A Cinderella Story From China.”

Yeh-Shen is a Chinese fairy tale that is similar to the European Cinderella story.

The one adapted on the anthology series, Yeh-Shen: A Cinderella Story From China, retold by Ai-Ling Louie and illustrated by Ed Young, is a well-known children’s picture book adaptation of the fairy tale, which was originally published in 1982.

If you are unfamiliar with the story or the animated series, a kind soul uploaded it to YouTube, and I have linked it here for you to see.

Fast Fact: One of the voices in this 1985 animated anthology of Yeh-Shen, was played by actress Emily Kuroda. She played Mrs. Kim on Gilmore Girls.

Mrs. Kim ran a tight ship, but was hilarious.

And Gilmore Girls happens to be one of my favorite shows. I want this website to be the Gilmore Girls of blogs, as there will be enough pop culture references in here to make your head spin, but that, like Lorelai and Rory, is how my mind works.

Now let’s get to the story.

VIRTUE CAN BE SEEN IN RAGS AS WELL AS SILK

“I believe that virtue shows quite as well in rags and patches as she does in purple and fine linen.” – Charles Dickens

Yeh-Shen always kept a neat and clean appearance. She kept her place in the home tidy. She also told the truth. And always acted with dignity and grace.  People noticed, including nobility. And not just any noble, A King. Ursula said it best, starting at 1:02 minutes.

I learned to keep a clean appearance at all times and take very good care of myself. I regularly get exercise, read, brush my teeth, and eat my three square meals a day. And people notice, including my partner. My appearance is one of the things that attracted my boyfriend to me.

FRIENDS ARE IMPORTANT

Yeh-Shen’s only friend is a fish named Gold Eyes. He is a spirit that is there to look out for her, that was sent by her mother, as a way for her to look after her beyond the grave.

Gold Eyes always helped Yeh-Shen. He would assist her with her laundry, give her food and advice, or provide anything else she needed help with.

She would share her meager breakfast with him, even though she had so little for herself. She was a good and kind person and a dear friend. In return, Gold Eyes held her in high regard and was always there for her in return. He tells her she deserves better and one day will have it.

From this, I learned how important friendship is. True friends are there in good times and bad.

It’s like Oprah Winfrey said, “Everyone wants to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.”

Agreed.

POVERTY IS HARD

However, there is no shame in being poor.

Upon the death of her parents, Ye-Shen is poor. She becomes a lowly servant to her stepmother and her daughter. No matter the amount of work placed upon her, she does her duties, and does them well.

It didn’t matter how hard Yeh-Shen worked or how obedient she was. She was treated badly simply because she was poor.

A man in town even looked her over because he said he was looking for a beautiful wife and not a pretty servant.

From this, I learned two things: (1) A job worth doing is worth doing well, and (2) do all you can to change your station in life. You may be born into poverty, but only you can determine if you remain that way forever.

Might I suggest reading biographies and books about money. And get your education. A good one.

MANNERS MATTER

Every time someone spoke to Ye-Shen, she spoke elegantly and courteously. No disrespect. People remembered and appreciated that about her.

Those manners got her far. She was able to escape trouble, punishment, and land the attention of a handsome noble from minding her manners.

MIND YOUR BUSINESS     

Her stepsister did not want Yeh-Shen to go to the festival because that is where people go to find a husband or wife. She said, “she couldn’t handle that type of competition.”

In addition, when she finds out about Yeh-Shen’s fish, she tells her mother, who then gets rid of him. In the end, it turned out to be fortuitous for Yeh-Shen.

Do not focus so much on others. Mind your own business. Run your own race. You could be getting yourself together and becoming your own success, if you focus less on what others are doing.

POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS

In the show, her stepsister repeats this phrase after her mother tells her she wants to hear positive thinking and not any negative thinking, “I will find a husband, I will be a bride.”

To this day, I practice my affirmations. I actually learned this from Yeh-Shen. I reject negative thinking and focus on being positive. Optimism gets results. Negativity does not.

MISERY LOVES COMPANY

When the stepmother learns of Yeh-Shen’s talking fish she decides to get rid of him. Leaving Yeh-Shen all alone.

Those who are unhappy, don’t want to be alone in their unhappiness. It is your job to get away from them. They will only drag you down.

FATE

Gold Eyes turns into magical bones. He tells Yeh-Shen not to despair, as this was his fate. He is still there with her, even though only in spirit.

Like Doris Day said, “Que será, será, Whatever will be, will be, The future’s not ours to see.”

You cannot control what is meant to be, but you can control your actions and how you respond to others. Stay in control. Have a cool head. Control your emotions, control your life.

KINDNESS

Gold Eyes tells Yeh-Shen that he must repay her kindness. Her stepmother would feed her very little. Therefore, Gold Eyes would provide huge meals for her as a way to compensate for this slight.

Even after all they put her through, she asked Gold Eyes if she should share with her stepmother and sister. He replies by telling her, “Did they share me with you? No. This gift is from me to you.”

He says to her that she can ask for something more, but she says, “this is all I need.”

Being nice has its rewards. I always repay a kindness. However, there is a thing as being too nice. You have to set limits and boundaries with people. In addition, you must also stand up for yourself. You can be nice, but don’t be anybody’s fool. Also, only take what you need. No need to be greedy.

DO NOT BE EASILY PROVOKED

Throughout the entire episode, she is repeatedly reprimanded, punished, neglected, scolded, and insulted. She never responds to this.

Sometimes you have to be man or woman enough to walk away. You must pick your battles. Live to fight another day.  Move on.

YOU MUST GIVE TO GET

When Gold Eyes tells her she deserves more and that they should not treat her so bad she says she knows.  But she was an orphan and they gave her a home.

He offers to do her chores for her, but she says she does not mind doing manual labor, for now. She hopes to find a husband (her true love) at the festival. He concedes and tells her if that is her destiny so be it.

She is offered the world on a silver platter and turns it down.  She wants to make her own future on her terms. It is best to keep your head down and work. You must give to get. That is just how the universe and karma works.

BROKEN PROMISES AND DREAMS

She helps her stepsister get ready for the festival. After, she is done, she says she must get herself ready and asks if it is still alright for her to go, as her stepmother promised.

Her stepmother breaks her promise. She tells Yeh-Shen she can go to the next one, or the ones after, but this this one for this year. Yeh-Shen was looking forward to that festival all year. Hope was thoroughly dashed. Yes, this can happen in life.

A TIME TO BE DISOBEDIENT

When her family leaves to go to the festival, Gold Eyes tells her she should go. She says she has nothing to wear. He then magically turns his bones into golden slippers, which transforms her plain clothes into a gorgeous dress. She disobeys her stepmother and leaves to go to the festival.

In life, there is a time to act. You must decide if you are going to break the rules.  And if you are, you better make sure it’s for a good reason.

DEMURE AND CHARMING

At the festival, her family sees the man referred to as The Handsomest One. She then gives a toothy smile and he scowls at her. It was hilarious.

Her mother then says your supposed to charm not scare him. She then goes on to say, “Let’s try the not handsome, but rich crowd.” Come on, really?

Then enter Yeh-Shen all dolled up. Yeh-Shen, who is usually demure, looks confident and sophisticated. A far cry from the reserved creature you are used to seeing in this episode.

Her mother remarks that, “There is the prize winner. She will get the handsomest, richest husband.” She says to her unmarried daughter, “Why can’t you look like that?” Who smartly remarks, “because I was born from you.” Her mother then pinches her.

Oh yea, for a drama it also has quite a bit of comedy. It’s a dramedy for sure.

HATERS GONNA HATE

When Yeh-Shen walks her stepsister says that she had hot nothing to do all day, but take dancing lessons and be pampered. Come on. Hating like that will give you wrinkles unmarried daughter.

It doesn’t matter how nice you are or what you do for people. Some people just are some haters! Ignore them. They hate us, cause they ain’t us. I say don’t hate, congratulate. Figure what they doing so you can see what makes them so successful and find the secret recipe, so you can copy it.

PRICELESS

At the festival, she runs away and loses one of the gold slippers. A man finds it and sells it to the merchant. The merchant then gives it as a gift to the King.

The gold slipper is referred to as priceless. And it is. Rare indeed. When something is priceless, you don’t just give it away to anyone. The merchant gave it to someone he felt was worthy.

A GIFT  FIT FOR A KING

The King feels that the slipper must belong to someone of great beauty and wealth. He decides to find the owner. Who just so happens to be Yeh-Shen; who is also looking for a golden slipper.

If something is lost, then you may decide to return it to its owner. However, do not think that it will come with a reward or be some fairy tale, happy ending. All that glitters may not be gold. In this case, the owner was a poor, orphaned, peasant girl. But there is more to her than people can see.

SEEK AND YOU SHALL FIND

Yeh-Shen asks around town to find the other slipper She finds a man who sold it to the merchant.  He then tells her he gave it as gift to the King. She says she must acquire it from the King. The merchant tells her to go to palace to go try it on. She says, “Thank you sir, I shall.”

If you want something, go and get it. Sitting on your laurels has never helped anyone.

THE POOR HAVE NO VOICE

Yeh-Shen waits in line all day to try on the slipper, but is denied. She then tries to take it. The palace guards accuse her of trying to steal it. They called her a girl in rags. She tells them the slipper belongs to her friend, a dead fish, as the slipper design is like the scales of a fish. They lock her in the dungeon.

First, if she had been a woman of nobility, she would not have been treated this way. To be poor is not a crime. However, if you want to be heard, you must ask the right way.

Second, you cannot even look as if you are attempting to steal something. There is a saying that, if you’ll lie, you’ll steal and if you’ll steal, you’ll kill. Do not even give people a reason to think that.

MERCY

The King says to have her released in the morning.  A guard tells her in a curt tone to get out and stay away. She merely bows.

Like in the Karate Kid (1984), there is a time to show mercy. A tense situation arises between an adult and a teen. And they needed an adult at the wheel. Mr. Miyagi was that adult.

And for those who do not know Mr. Miyagi, this is for you. Please do not be like that kid on that episode of Supernatural.

For those of you who do not know or may not remember, here is the scene of Mr. Miyagi teaching Daniel son another life lesson.

A TRAP SO TINDER

Better than any tinder app could do, the results of this match are written in the stars. Slide left, I mean right. Don’t want to make that mistake.

The King sets a trap to leave the slipper unattended so Yeh-Shen will take it and he will then follow her to see what she does and why it’s so important to her. That’s smart.

And pretty slick, if you ask me. Reminds me of that scene in Hackers (1995). 

PATIENCE

They wait. She takes the slipper. They follow.

Anything worth having is worth the wait.

IT DOESN’T BELONG TO YOU

After getting the slipper back, her step family find her out. Her stepmother is happy to have a matching pair of gold slippers. She says their fortune is made and their ticket out of the cave. She will sell to the King.

You do not own and cannot sell what is not rightfully yours.

NO THIEF HERE

The King stops the squabbling between Yeh-Shen and her stepmother. She tells him she is no thief. She needs to have the slippers together so that her friend can go return to the pond of his forefathers.

Sounds crazy, I know. However, when in doubt, tell the truth.

WHO ARE YOU?

The problem with playing games is that you get hurt too. – Common (actor, rapper, entrepreneur)

She tells the King who she is. No more games or pretending.

He asked. She answered. Tell people who you are.

GET TO THE ROOT OF THE PROBLEM

The King asks her, “What are these slippers to you?” She says they belong to her friend. Explains her story to the king.

That’s right. Tell people your story. Share what you are trying to do. You will be surprised how much people are willing to help you when you are doing the right thing. Also, when you know the truth, then you can deal with it.

DO THE RIGHT THING

The King tells her if that is what she must do with the slippers, then do so. He then says “but first, place them on your feet.”

She obliges and transforms back into the woman seen at the festival that day in the beautiful dress.

The look on her stepmother and stepsister faces are priceless!!!

The King could have decided not to believe her, but he listened. Do the right thing because it is the right thing to do and not for any prize or reward. Doing the right thing is its own reward.

SECRETS REVEALED AND DESTINY

Gold Eyes magically appears as a spirit and thanks Yeh-Shen. All secrets are now revealed. He tells her now he can go. As her dreams are about to come true.

If you are meant to have it, no one can stop you from your destiny.

The truth is out, now you can deal with it.

MARRIAGE MATERIAL

Her stepmother tells her that the clothing that Gold Eyes gave Yeh-Shen belongs to her because she is her guardian.

The King says no as she is a free person. She must then step aside.

The King says, “Your friend, the mystical fish has brought you into my life for a reason.” He then steps up to the plate, wasting no more time and asks for her hand in marriage. She says yes.

The show ends by letting the audience know to visit your local library or book store. Book recommendations are provided by the Library of Congress. If you like this tale, then read Cinderella by The Brothers Grimm.

I, myself, am a huge fan of the fairy tales. I like Hans Christian Anderson and the Grimm Brothers. Particularly, the Grimm Fairy Tale Classics cartoon, but that’s another story.

Blogger Interviews, Financial Freedom

A Blogger’s Tale: An Interview with Bitches Get Riches

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It’s almost Halloween! So, I will start this post like the Crypt-Keeper would on the show Tales from the Crypt on the heels of this upcoming All Hallows Eve.

Hello Boils and Ghouls! Tonight’s tale is one of money, sophistication, and women.

Topic du jour: Women who talk money. Who are the ladies behind the riches?

Before I get into the interview, I just want to start by saying this:

Thanks for coming out tonight. You could’ve been anywhere in the world. But you’re here with me, I appreciate that. – Jay Z

So, like Nas says, “Yo sit back, relax, sip your cog-ni-ac” and I hope you enjoy this blog post!

INTRODUCTIONS ARE IN ORDER

Much like Chaucer did, in A Knight’s Tale, I want to make an introduction.

Welcome Ladies and Gents!

And everybody else here NOT sitting on a financial cushion:

Today, you find yourself equals.

For you will all equally receive the same knowledge.

I have privilege, nay pleasure, of introducing you to bloggers, like no others,

Bloggers that can trace their lineage back to 2015.

I first met them at a dinner table near Orlando, Florida,

Waiting for our drinks,

Hoping that our meals would be arriving soon,

As the chips and salsa, were not enough to satisfy our hunger.

Next, Kitty amazed me still further

With her sign language skills and by telling jokes for an hour

Helping us forget we were ravenous

And to not walk across the street to the Shake Shack.

Three hours later, both ladies entertained us with stories

So, that we did not spend dinner in uncomfortable silence.

And so, without further gilding the lily,

And with no more ado,

I give you the Seekers of Financial Independence,

The Protectors of ending uncomfortable silence,

The Enforcers of Getting Rich,

The Ones —

The Only –

Bitches Get Riches!!!

MEET THE BI*CHES

GBM Miriam: It was an absolute pleasure meeting you ladies at FINCON 18 this year! Congrats, on winning the PLUTUS Award for funniest financial blog for Bitches Get Riches. Thank you for stopping by Greenbacks Magnet.

This blog is to help folks learn all things money.

I asked Kitty and Piggy to share their knowledge by answering a few questions and they so kindly said yes.

And thankfully so, I need all the help I can get because I don’t want to have to live in the forest, eat off the land, and use roots as medicine due to lack of money and financial literacy.

After the Dow dropped 800 points, I was strongly considering it, but then, like my sister, I thought if only I didn’t need tampons and to watch Supernatural…

So, here they are dropping gems right here for all to see. In the illustrious words of Sailor Moon, “And that means you!”

Fast Fact: The hand signs that Sailor Moon makes while she says her famous line, “In the name of the moon, I will punish you” means “I love you” in sign language.

Let’s get right into the interview.

BI*CHES START A BLOG

  1. What prompted you ladies to start a blog about money? 

BGR Kitty: We were the first among our group of friends to hit the classic major life milestones–marriage, buying a home, selling our souls in big girl corporate jobs. Our parents and grandparents, bless them, they meant well, but their advice was from another century. So we were always texting each other for advice. We needed help from a peer who’d been there recently. Eventually we realized there was a wealth of valuable information just sitting in our text convos, and we thought, “Hey, why not publish it?”

BGR Piggy: What Kitty said. 

  1. What are your favorite finance books? How come? 

BGR Kitty: Piggy is The Good Child and will give you real answers. But I’ll tell you that I get more out of reading advice that I don’t agree with. Bad advice fires me up. For that reason I have to say The Four Hour Workweek is my current favorite. I haaaaaaaate that book. Myopic, exploitative, and smug. Just thinking about it gets me excited!

BGR Piggy: Oh yeah this is definitely my area of expertise. I am currently reading Brynne Conroy’s “The Feminist Financial Handbook” and loving it. Like, when’s the last time you read a book on money that started with a definition of intersectional feminism? I also can’t recommend enough the classic “Your Money Or Your Life” by Vicki Robin, which is an essential read for anyone pursuing financial independence or just a better life. Then for beginners, I really enjoyed “The Financial Diet” by the brilliant Chelsea Fagan. Last but not least, I am counting down the days until Tanja Hester’s “Work Optional” is released!

  1. What are you reading right now? What’s on your night stand? 

BGR Kitty: I’m currently rereading Y the Last Man. It’s one of my absolute favorite graphic novels. It’s the story of what happens to the world when everyone with a Y chromosome dies suddenly, with the exception of one guy and his pet monkey. A fantastic piece of sci-fi that’s I mean, I love any story with roving bands of crazed misandrists. I also just started White Trash: The 400-Year Untold History of Class in America.

BGR Piggy: I just finished reading “Dietland” by Sarai Walker. It’s a total mindfuck of a book, all about body positivity, subversive feminism, rape culture, and a literal feminist terrorist cell that assassinates rapists and blackmails corporations into eliminating sexist products. If your reaction to that description was “… wut?” then hey, me too!

  1. One thing people may not know about each of you?

BGR Kitty: I don’t get hangovers. (I try not to rub it in the morning after a long night of drinking, but it definitely came up at FinCon.) I also have a genetic mutation that makes my body not process cannabinoids. Finally, I can open ANY jar. Seriously, ANY jar. Given this body of evidence, it’s entirely possible that I am Bruce Willis’s character from Unbreakable.

BGR Piggy: I hate chocolate. Refuse to eat it. When I was a kid my brother and I would divide the Halloween candy between us: he’d get all the chocolate, I’d get all the non-chocolate. He also got all the cavities which I’m sure is unrelated. I also love playing blues covers of pop songs at open mics! Just learned Ariana Grande’s “Dangerous Woman.”

  1. What’s in your wallet? How did you start getting your riches? 

BGR Kitty: I have a net worth of a quarter million. I find that beyond amazing, considering I’m a working artist. Every single lucky break I’ve had in my career has been because someone believed in me and advocated for me. If I were trying to make it in the big city with just my brains and my work ethic, I’d be straight fucked. I’ve had help, lots and lots of help. That’s why I like helping other people! It both feels good and is the only karmically sensible reaction.

BGR Piggy: I love this question, but I feel like Kitty’s question is perfect. Also, the Capital One Venture card is LITERALLY in my wallet. My husband and I paid for a vacation to Portugal for our fifth anniversary using the travel points for that card. It took us about two years of earning the points, which isn’t bad for a free vacation.

BONUS ROUND

Bonus Questions (pick any of the questions from the top or below that you want to answer) 

  1. Any life or money lessons from a favorite movie or TV show you would like to share?

BGR Piggy: According to my favorite movie, The Princess Bride, you should never get involved in a land war in Asia, nor should you go in against a Sicilian when death is on the line.

  1. If you could have dinner with anyone in history, who would it be? Why?

BGR Kitty: Malcolm X, especially towards the very end of his life. He’s a personal hero, and an incredibly complex figure. I’d be so interested to hear his thoughts on the state of America right now. Also, he doesn’t eat pork, and neither do I, so it would be super easy meal planning.

GBM Miriam: On your About Page it states: Who are Kitty and Piggy?

Some people wonder which of us is the Bebop, and which one’s the Rocksteady. But that question is an illusion. We are both Krangs.

So, here is my question.

  1. Why not Bebop and Rocksteady? Why 2 Krangs? Inquiring minds want to know! You said I could ask you anything. Please, no judgment.

BGR Kitty: If we’re going by the 1987 animated series, Bebop and Rocksteady–though lovable–are bunglers of the highest order. We’re strictly bunglers of the second-highest order. Like Krang, we are very goal-oriented. We too have platform dependencies (us, Patreon; him, Shredder). And most of all, we share Krang’s personality: sarcastic and demanding, with an almost admirable abiding pettiness.

  1. If you found a lottery ticket that ends up winning $1 million. What would you do? 

BGR Kitty: I would drive my van to Empire City and stay at Le Hotel with my son in the hopes that I could convince my dead wife’s possessive lesbian ex-servant to chill the fuck out. Hashtag reference! All the kids got it!

The End.

This is where the screen fades to black and the curtain closes. Please ladies take a bow!

Well, we have now come to the end of this interview. That was not only interesting, but also entertaining to say the least. I feel like I just walked out of an amateur comedy night,  open-mic contest!

BGR: Thanks Miriam!!!

GBM Miriam: Thank you Kitty and Piggy for coming aboard!! The next time we see each other the Patreon is on me!

Want more financial and life gems, from the comedy stylings of the dynamo duo of Bitches Get Riches?

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