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Lipstick Confessions: Confessions Of A Teenage Waitress

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You read that right.

Like Usher, these are my confessions.

Lipstick Confessions that is. đź’‹

Not Confessions of a Teenage DRAMA QUEEN. Even though I was a teenager, but of a TEENAGE WAITRESS!

Being a waitress was a humbling experience.

After reading about Financial Samurai working for $3.50 an hour at McDonald’s, I was inspired to share my story of making $2.39 an hour + tips while waiting tables at Shoney’s.

It was early experiences like that that shaped my attitudes toward money and work today.

It is also a reason why I try to tip well.

I believe in being a good tipper because that is how people make their living. My father always says tip well enough for people to feel it. I concur.

A waitress is a pretty grueling job.

You are on your feet for hours on end. You must constantly be moving and taking orders or picking up food. Then there’s the nonstop cleaning, folding of napkins, packaging silverware, putting ketchup, salt and pepper and other condiments out and etc.

That early job experience was enough to make me want to work and study so hard while I was young, so that I would not have to when I was older.

This job and other hardships are what drove me to dig my way out of debt and start saving over 40% of my after-tax income.

I have always been thrifty and a saver.

It is because of that, I knew I could not marry someone that is fiscally irresponsible and stay married to them. It just wouldn’t work.

See my post on Why I and Halle Berry Save Soo Much

I have never had the urge to go rent a Mercedes-Benz, drive down to Vegas, buy lottery tickets at every 7-eleven along the way, buy a $4,000 Cartier wrist watch just cause you know bosses gotta be on time, visit a psychic who says my lucky numbers are 4,5, and 6, and then bet it all on black.

Nope. I have not given any of that any thought at all.

Except maybe that the color of the S-Class Mercedes with a 3-layer fabric top is impeccably crafted for coupelike comfort, sleekness and outward views when it’s up, or vanishes in under 20 seconds, even as you accelerate to 30 mph should be silver.

Other than that, no thoughts whatsoever!

See my posts

Finance Lessons From Flipping Vegas

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At age 17, I was a teenage waitress.

It would be six years before I began my career working in finance, banking, and loans.  

And a full decade after that waitressing job, before I got hired to work at a top-tier private university with excellent benefits.

But first I had to pay my dues.

SLINGING HASH TO MAKE A BUCK

I looked down at my bank receipt.

I had about $10 bucks in my bank account. I was BROKE!

I needed a job.

Being only 17 didn’t provide me with too many options, but as they say, “beggars can’t be choosers.”

I heard the local Shoney’s was hiring wait staff. To my surprise, I applied and got the job.

We went in for training at around 9 am the next week after being hired.

My uniform was black pants, white button shirt, sneakers, a small bow-tie and a black apron.

I only worked there for one summer.

That was long enough to realize I did not want to make my career in the food service.

I knew this was going to be the first, last, and only job I ever took that dealt with serving or making food.

See my post Fast Food Nation

After reading the book Nickel and Dimed, I felt that the author expressed my views on how she and I observed the treatment of low-wage workers was pretty spot on!

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The job: take orders, greet customers, keep the restaurant clean, and serve food.

Sounds simple right. Wrong.

We had a busy body manager. Chaotic shifts. And lulls in customers.

Shoney’s was an eat-in restaurant (mostly was a buffet place) that started in Tennessee, but had restaurants in the Mid-Atlantic region.

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So many people opted for the breakfast mostly leaving afternoons and dinner times pretty sparse inside. 

That means little to no tips!

Not something I was told upon being hired.

Some of the food on the menu looked better than it actually was in-person, but all the food was at least good.

And no matter how hard I worked, it never felt good enough to our nitpicking manager who was always so concerned about how she looked in the eyes of the suits at corporate.

She was too busy kissing their a$$ to worry about us lower employees on the totem poll.

Little good it did her.

She was a ball of constant worry and stress, a chain smoker, and overweight. This was our manager. Our fearless leader?

Is this what management is supposed to look like in America or was this just her issue?

There has to be better ways for her to almost be eligible for food stamps and make a buck, but what do I know.

My lunch break was the only thing I looked forward to because it was the one-time no one could give you any orders and you could get off your feet and rest.

I usually ate a Philly cheesesteak because it was just so good. Calories be damned!

Even some of the cooks seemed disgruntled. They liked to flirt with waitresses and I think one was dating one of them! Whatever.

I just needed the cooks to be happy so that I could get food out piping hot and fast so I could make this money.

I need those tips!

After calculating the $2.39 an hour, working 40 hours a week would only get me $95.60! And that’s gross not net! 

Anyway, I now had to deal with the situation.

The goal was to have spending money to hang out with my friends and buy all the cool stuff I always wanted but could never afford.

To be so young and naĂŻve. If I would have been thinking, I should have started tucking money into a Roth IRA. I would probably have had less anxiety when I got my first REAL job!

If I would have saved just $2,000 a year from ages 16-26, without adding another penny, in 40 years that money could have turned into $1,586,894.95 at a 10% return with compound interest! That would have required me to only stash away $22,000!

Just some food for thought right there. Start investing young!

WELCOME TO THE WONDERFUL WORLD OF TIPPING

Like the first episode of Buffy the Vampire Slayer, “Welcome to the Hellmouth,” I was welcomed to how cheap people really are.

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Tipping is the holy grail of waitressing and bartending.

See my post on Money Tips From Buffy The Vampire Slayer

Make that money honey.

I had a wide range of tips, as anyone who works for tips can tell you.

My range was this: $0 to $27.

The highlight of my night was always counting up my tips when I got home. I think the highest I ever got was $100 bucks in one day!

I know that may not sound like a lot, but to a high school kid in the 90’s that was good money.

Things were also cheaper back then as well.

You bought the item, like a pair of shoes or video game, and then the transaction was over.

Not like subscription mania that has now swept across the nation.

See my post America is the land of subscriptions

One of the smallest tips I ever got was from 2 girls I went to high school with. We were not friends but I didn’t expect to only get a $1.17 tip! That was basically the change from the meal they just ate and paid for. Maybe they should have put in an application to work here too!

I remember one time in college when I got a ride home from a weekend class I was taking (I was doing 6 classes that semester), telling me she worked at her brother’s restaurant and she made sure to be on point in order to get that $20 tip!

My days at Shoney’s was long gone by then, but I remember thinking it is far better to work at a higher end restaurant like her because you can make more money.

Lesson Learned: Focus working or catering to high-end clientele that can afford to pay for your services.

SAVE LIKE YOU WILL LIVE FOREVER

Have you ever heard the saying “Live like tomorrow is your last day on earth?”

Well, I like to save like I am going to live forever.

I learned this lesson, like James Brown said, you have to Pay the Cost to be the Boss.

That song and The Payback made me want to get my act together.

I put a plan into action. I was going to save money out of every paycheck.

It took years to make happen, but I went from saving nothing to putting aside 9% of my income. Then from saving $1 a day to $13,000 a year!

The plan had been to stop living paycheck-to-paycheck. 

That was okay, but I needed a goal. Something to aim at.

So I picked a number. $13,333 was that number.

I chose it for a few reasons: 1) The number 3 is my favorite number; 2) I saw that another blogger was saving that amount per month so I aimed to duplicate that, but started smaller; and 3) I did the math and discovered I could have over $100,000 cash if I did this for about 7.5 years.

I also knew it was possible that if I invested $100k in the stock market that after 30 years without adding another dime, I could have $1 million shored up for retirement.

Considering that about 20% of Americans have $0 saved for retirement, I knew that I better prepare because tomorrow does come.

The future is going to happen.

If I was going to bet on anything, I would bet on that. Forget Vegas. You can bet the farm the future is coming. And it’s coming fast!

Remember that 9% I mentioned earlier. Well that small sum turned into a small nest egg of $25,000!

And most of that sum is invested in just a few stocks!  

The power of compound interest baby!

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Stock Price Stock Quantity Current Balance
AAPL $201.35 37.256 $7,501.50
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Total
    $16,835.80

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I hope this post inspires people to understand the value of a dollar and that paying off debt and saving are far better than blowing all your money on things. 

Invest and watch your money grow!

Money Lessons I learned from Jay Leno

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Everyday and in every way, invest in yourself. Invest in your health and education to help build your wealth. With money comes power and protection. The wealthy are protected. Build up your knowledge and money coffers. A war money war chest is your way to ditch the 9 to 5 and get out of the rat race.

Jay Leno gives advice on how to do just that.

MONEY LESSONS FROM JAY

Jay on starting out

“I wasn’t a millionaire when I started.”

“I would alternate between the two, so it was cars and hamburgers, which are actually still two of my passions.”

He started his career working for minimum wage at McDonald’s in Massachusetts. Jay also worked at a Ford dealership. He discovered the key or secret sauce (pun intended) to getting rich: Developing multiple streams of income.

Jay on working more than one job

“I always had two incomes.”

“I’d bank one, and I’d spend one.”

“I had two jobs because I realized that was the quickest way to become a millionaire.”

“When I got ‘The Tonight Show,’ I always made sure I did 150 [comedy show] gigs a year so I never had to touch the principal.”

He has worked two jobs simultaneously since he was 16.

And there you have it. Basically, if you want riches, then you have to put in the work. If you work 40 hours a week, then find a way to work 50 or 60. Gotta make that paper.

Jay on saving money

“When I was younger, I would always save the money I made working at the car dealership, and I would spend the money I made as a comedian.”

“When I started to get a bit famous, the money I was making as a comedian was way more than the money I was making at the car dealership, so I would bank that and spend the car dealership money.”

“Then I got to the point where the comedy money was, like, five times the other money, so I decided to flip it around and save the comedy money.”

“I would always spend the lesser amount of what the two were.”

Therefore, if you are working 2 jobs or more, then you bank the bigger paycheck and spend the smaller checks. Bank the bigger of the two checks and live off the other.

Forget the pundits that tell you not to save. There is value in saving. You need an emergency to help in case of job loss or illness. Life is full of hiccups. Once you have saved reasonable amount, then you start investing your surplus income.

The key is not to only save, but to also invest. Savings help you live your life to the fullest. In addition, savings can help you fund your dreams. Not having to go to the bank for a loan is an incredible feeling.

Jay on living on one salary

“I pretended as if I didn’t even have the ‘Tonight Show’ job.”

“You know, when you start making money, you get lazy. I wanted to make sure I always had that hunger, so I never looked.”

“It would go directly into a bank.”

Simply put, bank it and forget it.

Jay on patience

It took 22 years to accumulate, “a nice little nest egg.”

You heard it here folks. Building wealth takes time. In many cases, it takes a couple decades. There are no get rich quick schemes. There’s is no free lunch. There are no shortcuts. You do the work, get paid, invest the surplus incomes, and wait to earn interest.

Jay on retiring

“If you do something and it works, then keep doing it.”

You do not have to retire early unless you want to. If you are passionate about something, and can make a living doing it, then do it.

Jay on Buy-And-Hold

“The McLaren F1, I paid $800,000 for it in 1998. The last offer I got was $12 million. … The nice thing is, if you buy what you like, and it doesn’t go up in value, you still like it.”

Warren Buffet likes to buy-and-hold forever. Therefore, don’t even part with your cash, if you don’t want to keep an item to infinity and beyond. Just don’t even open your wallet.

Jay on avoiding credit cards

“I barely use credit cards.”

Words to live by. Either use credit sparingly for a purpose and get it paid off ASAP or don’t even bother using it at all.

Jay on house buying

“I didn’t buy my house until I had cash. When you own something and you don’t have to write checks every month, you’re just better off.”

I learned from James Brown, Dick Clark, Jay-Z, Oprah, JK Rowling and Michael Jackson to own what you do. You can control your earning potential and life, if you own. You can continue to make money off the things you own and control for many years to come.

Regardless, of whether or not you’re still working. You can still earn royalties from work you have done in the past. That is how the rich get richer. Earnings on top of earnings.

Jay on debt

“I don’t carry any debt. I don’t write checks at the end of the month for anything.”

“I didn’t buy anything I couldn’t afford to pay for in cash.”

“Here is the money, give me the thing, transaction over.'”

Jay hates installments, as do I. His cash only solution is what the world needs to adhere by.

I have literally saved for two years or more to purchase items or services I wanted or needed.

When I wanted Lasik, I used my flexible spending and waited about 3 years before I did the procedure. It cost between $4,000 to $5,000. And was worth every penny. Paid cash, not credit.

When I needed dental work done, I saved for 2 years. Paid cash, no installments.

Don’t buy on credit, build a fortune.

Jay on Retooling

“Since high school, I’ve always had two jobs. I worked at a McDonald’s and I worked at a car dealership. … When I was doing the Tonight Show, I’d be on the road at least two to three days a week because I thought, ‘We’ll see how long this lasts.’ ”

Do not ever get too comfortable. Things can change. Always have more than one way to earn a living.

Jay on owning

“I own everything. I own my buildings. I own my cars. That way, if it ends tomorrow, I know what I’ve got.”

His conservative money philosophy gives him peace of mind. When you are out of debt you just feel better. Take control of your finances and this too will help give you some peace of mind.

Jay on old-fashioned values

“I’m not a big splurge guy, partly because I had Depression-era parents: “They just frightened me to death, saying, ‘You gotta save every penny!'”

“It’s a little old fashioned, I suppose, but it seems to work pretty well for me.”

No impulse buying. This is the debt trap. Plan your expenses. Budget just means you plan where your money goes and it gives you permission to spend. Use it.

Jay on Taxes

“I just pay. Fine, I’ll get another job, I’ll work harder. That’s probably not very good tax advice. I don’t have money in the Cayman Islands or any of that nonsense.”

Always pay your taxes. Period!

Jay on being frugal

“McDonald’s sent me these Happy Meal coupons, so one day I’m in the McLaren and I’m going to McDonald’s. I say, ‘Give me two Happy Meals.’ And I give them the [coupons].”

“Now I look like the cheapest guy in the world driving this multimillion-dollar McLaren and I’m trying to get a free hamburger.”

“I’ve never touched a dime of my ‘Tonight Show’ money. Ever.”

He hates spending on clothes and has not touched one dime of his Tonight Show money. At one point, he was earning around $30M a year! It pays to be frugal.

So, you just avoid the mall, invest the money you would spend on clothes and start earning your way to a fortune with compound interest. Delay your gratification. Discipline is the key to wealth. Once you have it, no one can take it from you. Then you can save money to invest. Easy as pie.

Jay on Shifting Gears

“So many friends of mine, all they ever did was the TV show. When the TV show ends, suddenly their life ends, because that was their whole life. I was never that guy.”

It’s great to have hobbies and interests outside of work. See if you can turn a hobby or side gig, into an income. At the very least, have something to do after one thing ends. Remember, no idle hands.

Jay on shopping

“I’m not a big shopping guy. I’m just not interested in clothes outside of the essentials.”

“To me, it seems like a complete waste of money. I just want to have enough clothes to cover legally what parts I have to cover.”

Hear, hear! I used to like shopping. Until I didn’t. That happened once I learned I was losing a small fortune for that new purse or shoes.  Read my post How Millennial Money inspired me to start saving $13,333.06 a year for more on that topic and see how I quit shopping for good.

Jay on Fixing Things

“When you’re in a business like show business, everything is subjective. Some people think you’re funny, some people think you suck. …When something’s broken and you fix it, no one can deny it’s running.”

Very true. Always be tweaking or working toward expanding and doing better. People notice you the harder you work.

Jay on setting high standards

He, like Coco Chanel, believe in setting high standards for yourself. Chanel said, “keep your head, heels, and standards high.”

Jay learned this attitude while working at McDonald’s. A key pillar of success: You can never go too far to ensure you’re producing a great product.

He would go home every night after work and write jokes. Jay would go through hundreds with his staff and get it down to the top 20. He would record himself and then re-listen for timing. Tedious? Yes, I know. But effective. The hard work paid off.

Jay on idle hands

“I meet with the writers at about midnight or so and work until about 4:00 a.m.”

“I sleep four hours, maybe five.”

The way he saw it was, “if you have time to complain, you don’t have enough work to do.”

I am notorious for going to bed thinking of work and getting up to work. Sometimes I get up in the middle of the night to write down ideas about work. I work so much I barely have time to breathe.

I learned that from Pat Benatar who was a workaholic in the 80’s.  But guess what? She wrote hits songs for like a decade. When there are times I need a break or pick me up while working, I’ll listen to her songs Invincible, Shadows of the Night or Love is a Battlefield.

For those who may not know or remember those songs, check out the links below. Good stuff.

Jay on failure

“You learn a tremendous amount from the mistakes.”

I have learned to fail better. It makes you stronger. It also humbles you and makes you more empathetic to others.

Jay on money to blow

“So many people get to be the age I’m at now and they’ve got nothing because they just blew it all.”

“I put my money in a hammock and say, ‘You relax. I’m going to go work.’ And when I come back, I put some more money in the pile.”

It’s your money. Don’t blow it.

Jay on Life

“Life is not that complicated … if you’re kind and decent, and try to be honest, it’ll probably work out. Yeah, you’ll get screwed once in a while. I certainly have, but that’s okay … don’t dwell on it.”

Pick yourself up, dust your wallet off, and get back into the grind. Don’t rest on your laurels. Put your head down and work. Stay humble and stay hungry. Generate multiple streams of income, diversify your earnings, increase your savings, and build your wealth. Get that net worth pumping in that interest faster than Arnold Schwarzenegger did lifting weights in Pumping Iron and you will start rolling in the dough!

Just FYI: Jay is worth over $300 million dollars. Has no debt. Is a self-made millionaire. And still works at the age of 68.